As we are half way through the year it seems like a good time to do a New Year’s Resolution check-in. My biggest question during such a review has always been, ‘will I get the satisfaction of using the strike-through key?’ They say crossing an item from a list releases endorphins. No wonder I love making lists. It is much easier to scratch through a grocery list than to go for a long run!
Unfortunately, my resolution strike-through rate typically offers minimal endorphin payoff. This is probably because I feel compelled to over achieve in just about every area of life and my list reflects this. Do I actually over achieve? Nope, not even close. I’ve had ‘read three classic novels’ on my list for as many years as I can remember. I may have actually read three in all those years. Have I travelled the world or saved the annual 10% each year…uh no. My list has always loomed over me with an ominous foreboding of failure. That was until I read ‘The Renaissance Soul’, by Margaret Lobenstine. Margaret’s words forever changed the way I look at goals and success. She gives us permission to focus on just one or two things at a time. Helping us understand that these one or two items will be strung together with others throughout our life, still allowing us to feel well accomplished. They don’t all have to be accomplished at the same time! Ah-ha!
After reading the book I took a look at my list with a new eye. I removed all but one thing, ‘create an online store selling artisan products’. That’s it. My psyche was set free! I no longer felt scattered and distracted by all I wasn’t doing. I gave myself permission to focus. Have I accomplished the goal? Yes. blueZelia will always be a work in progress but that’s the fun part and what will keep it interesting. But the goal itself gets the strike-through.